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Posted by on November 29, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Why Skeptics Need to Pay Attention to Mental Illness…

I randomly came across the following video on The Friendly Atheists website today and was floored by this talk done at Skepticon 2011 by JT Eberhard from WWJTD. You can view his own blog post here, and watch the video below. As someone who lives with an anxiety disorder and PTSD, this not only touched a nerve but it meant a lot to have it discussed in the arena of Skeptics. Much love to JT.

 
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Posted by on November 26, 2011 in Atheist, Mental Illness, Skeptics

 

How does one… No. 1

Call it the beginning of a series of question based blog posts. Not necessarily asking for advice, but more asking how YOU cope with something.

So. How do YOU not lose themselves in the dating process in terms of playing the female socialization role, like a good little girl, to attract a partner?

You know what I mean… the challenge it is to be, act, talk and behave a certain way to make oneself more desirable. And, while I am on this subject, I might as well dispel my ignorance and ask is this a struggle in lesbian courting? Or is this a patriarchy infused hetero issue only?

As for me I find myself playing into either the quirky girl trope I mentioned in this blog post, or pretending I am way more cheerful, bubbly, talkative, positive than I really am. I mean ever. In reality I am actually quite reserved, usually deep in my own thoughts, quiet, studious, creative and a perfectionist. So why the smoke screen? Female socialization, yo.

And inevitably, the urge to keep up the smoke screen fades or I just become too preoccupied with LIVING to worry about how brilliantly I am knowing my role, and get pissed at their expectations while they get all “you’re not the saaaaame WAAAAAH!” (Which, incidently reads to me like “You’re not the useless, needy fangirl of me anymoooooore Waaaaaah!”). I mean I admit I would do myself well to just say fuck socialization and let a partner be attracted to what you see is what you get, but then the “OMG I WILL BE ALONE FOREVER!” fear kicks in and acting it is! Except, yanno… when I think about it, being alone sounds pretty fucking awesome… if it didn’t come with the socialization that being alone as a woman = VRT VRT VRT FAILURE! FAILURE!

How do YOU handle this issue?

 
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Posted by on November 8, 2011 in Female Socialization

 

“You seem so angry!”

I love that term for how incredibly good it is at silencing someone.

“You seem so angry!”
~ Jesus, would you ever shut up about that subject!
~ Why do you always have to complain?
~ You take things to serious/to heart.
~ That issue isn’t really that important/serious/relevant, you’re just ANGRY.

Yanno what? There is a reason people say “If you’re not angry, you’re not paying attention!” which is because IT’S FUCKING TRUE. There is a LOT to be angry about with the way the world works today. To be brutally fucking honest, I cannot comprehend anyone who ISN’T angry! Because their head is up their ass, they aren’t paying attention and they certainly aren’t giving a fuck about anyone else’s plight in the world outside of their own desperate need to assimilate into this toxic abusive culture we reside in.

Shit I am angry about: Poverty, sexism, misogyny, rape, abuse in all it hideous forms, government corruption, state sponsored abuse of minorities, porn, the shift of blame off useless fucking governments ONTO welfare recipients as scapegoats who “abuse the system” while ignoring the fucking twats who have brought us to our knees, Dudebros, an educational system that values autonomy and rote learning, c-section rates sky rocketing, formula companies mother shaming to garner profit, AND ON AND FUCKING ON the list goes.

I mean really, there are very few things in my day to day life as a procreating cunt bearer that do not bring me into the direct line of fire with these issues.

But lets get one fucking thing straight, ok? I am NOT an angry person. My anger is a NATURAL and REASONABLE reaction to civilization and the patriarchy. End of fucking story. Do you think I LIKE being angry? No, I don’t. I am ANGRY because of abuses. Remove the abuses and I AM NOT ANGRY. So explain to me why I should stop being angry again? Did the world change? Did the paradigms shift? I didn’t fucking think so.

i am not an angry girl
but it seems like i’ve got everyone fooled
every time i say something they find hard to hear
they chalk it up to my anger
and never to their own fear
and imagine you’re a girl
just trying to finally come clean
knowing full well they’d prefer you
were dirty and smiling”

~Pretty Girl, Ani DiFranco.

 
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Posted by on November 8, 2011 in Female Socialization, The Patriarchy

 

The Patriarchy Matrix

 
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Posted by on November 8, 2011 in The Patriarchy

 

Totally pointless post…

Totally enjoying reading the comments coming in. Thrilled to have such interesting readers – not that I should be surprised ^_^

 
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Posted by on November 8, 2011 in Uncategorized

 

Have I ever mentioned how much I love Amanda Palmer?

Of course not – this blog is brand spanking new. Bask in her awesomeness ^_^


Map Of Tasmania ft. Amanda Palmer & Peaches

They don’t play the song on the radio
They don’t show the tits on the video
They don’t know that we are the media
They don’t know that we start the mania
Your Eyes don’t want to see what I’m making you
Your ass is off its seat and I’m shaking you
Walking down the street I’m the lady – ah –
Showing off my map of Tasmania

Soft and sweet and shaped like a triangle
Some girls want no shape and they shave it all
That’s so whack, it hurts with the stubble
Walking ’round and look like an eight-year-old
Soft and sweet and shaped like a triangle
Some girls want no shape and they shave it all
That’s so whack, it hurts with the stubble
Walking ’round and look like an eight-year-old

I say grow that shit like a jungle
Give ‘em something strong to hold onto
Let it fly in the open wind
If it get too bushy, you can trim

They don’t play the song on the radio
They don’t show the tits on the video
They don’t know that we are the media
They don’t know that we start the mania
You Eyes don’t want to see what I’m making you
Your ass is off its seat and I’m shaking you
Walking down the street I’m the lady – ah –
Showing off my map of Tasmania

My map is symbolic
It get drunk a lot
Hey, does that make it an alcoholic?
Call it M.O.T. for short
Let’s take this bottomless case straight to the court
Freedom down there, i swear, do you see me smirkin’?
Do you see me wearing a merkin ?
Get in the formation let start
Triangle jerkin’
Triangle jerkin’

 

 
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Posted by on October 29, 2011 in Female Socialization, Stuff I love

 

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