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“You seem so angry!”

I love that term for how incredibly good it is at silencing someone.

“You seem so angry!”
~ Jesus, would you ever shut up about that subject!
~ Why do you always have to complain?
~ You take things to serious/to heart.
~ That issue isn’t really that important/serious/relevant, you’re just ANGRY.

Yanno what? There is a reason people say “If you’re not angry, you’re not paying attention!” which is because IT’S FUCKING TRUE. There is a LOT to be angry about with the way the world works today. To be brutally fucking honest, I cannot comprehend anyone who ISN’T angry! Because their head is up their ass, they aren’t paying attention and they certainly aren’t giving a fuck about anyone else’s plight in the world outside of their own desperate need to assimilate into this toxic abusive culture we reside in.

Shit I am angry about: Poverty, sexism, misogyny, rape, abuse in all it hideous forms, government corruption, state sponsored abuse of minorities, porn, the shift of blame off useless fucking governments ONTO welfare recipients as scapegoats who “abuse the system” while ignoring the fucking twats who have brought us to our knees, Dudebros, an educational system that values autonomy and rote learning, c-section rates sky rocketing, formula companies mother shaming to garner profit, AND ON AND FUCKING ON the list goes.

I mean really, there are very few things in my day to day life as a procreating cunt bearer that do not bring me into the direct line of fire with these issues.

But lets get one fucking thing straight, ok? I am NOT an angry person. My anger is a NATURAL and REASONABLE reaction to civilization and the patriarchy. End of fucking story. Do you think I LIKE being angry? No, I don’t. I am ANGRY because of abuses. Remove the abuses and I AM NOT ANGRY. So explain to me why I should stop being angry again? Did the world change? Did the paradigms shift? I didn’t fucking think so.

i am not an angry girl
but it seems like i’ve got everyone fooled
every time i say something they find hard to hear
they chalk it up to my anger
and never to their own fear
and imagine you’re a girl
just trying to finally come clean
knowing full well they’d prefer you
were dirty and smiling”

~Pretty Girl, Ani DiFranco.

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Posted by on November 8, 2011 in Female Socialization, The Patriarchy


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Posted by on November 8, 2011 in The Patriarchy


Happy Pornified Halloween!

Before I get on topic, just to say – I woke up to a bit of a surprise this morning in seeing how much traffic the blog had gotten. Hi everyone who found me! I think it’s because of a ping back on Twisties blog “I blame the Patriarchy” because I blogged about one of her recent articles. I was even more thrilled to see all the comments awaiting me from incredibly supportive women. Thank you for that – it made my day. Because of others finding me and getting involved by commenting, I thought it would be good to add an addendum to my “about” page with regard to my readers/commenter. Find it here.

So – without further ado:

Halloween! What the fuck are people thinking?!

I was in a waiting room on Monday and this Good Morning type show came on. They had a selection of costumes to give you an idea of what to dress up as for Halloween. Now I like Halloween, but I will be the first to admit I avoid the horror aspects of the celebrations because I am too damn sensitive lol. But I do love the harvest and that ties in with Halloween, and I do love the creativity behind the decorations and costumes.

Yanno what I don’t fucking love? How long have I been in a bubble that it’s suddenly cool to pornify kids at halloween? First of all, when I was a kid we went out every year. I was a duck, an elephant, a clown, a witch complete with green face and long crooked warty nose.

It was bad enough that the adult women on this show were both a SEXY vampire and a SEXY pumpkin (it takes great skill to sexify a pumpkin), and the men folk got to have a full tracksuit skeleton costume and a fully clothed Joker costume. But to see little girls walk out in skin tight, low cut witches costumes? PLAY BOY BUNNY COSTUMES? Are you fucking kidding me? I mean that’s not even pornifying, THATS JUST PORN!

I actually don’t even know what to say about this, I am still in a daze from it. I know it’s important to the patriarchy to train up a child in the way they should go and instill the importance of being fuckable and available at all times, but this is just…. We’re talking 6 year olds. I mean I thought all the barbie princess bullshit was bad but it’s like that wasn’t quite good enough – apparently disney princesses still have some level of respect and expectation?

Who knows.

I guess in this post modern day the patriarchy has to work extra hard to keep females available and fuckable. I mean this post is almost redundant aside from me just being shocked – there is lingerie for small girls now, thongs, women tear their pubic hair out by the roots to keep that prepubescent look. And we wonder why pedophilia runs rampant.


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Posted by on October 28, 2011 in The Patriarchy


You’re a sexpozzy? How very privileged of you!

I was over at I Blame The Patriarchy reading this article when I felt a flood of relief and gratitude because she had managed to put words to something I have been silently railing against.

“Too often, it’s only when a woman ages out of pornosity, and is too old to do anything but take pictures of cows, that she discovers what the world really thinks of her.”

Except for me? It’s different. You see, as a fat tom boy of a woman I never really HAD the choice about whether or not to play by the patriarchies rules and play the feminine role. I mean sure, fatties can be feminine, I am not arguing that. But me? No.

You see I feel more comfortable in baggy farm clothes, barefoot in my garden, being sweaty, dirty and productive then I ever did wearing that god awful smelly make up that clogs your pores and rubs off every fucking time you touch your face. Or spending time that I could be DOING stuff standing there like an idiot trying to make my hair look… good? Or spending my hard earned money on clothes that somehow MAGICALLY hide that stomach roll of mine.

So you see, I never really got to play my role in the patriarchy in terms of being feminine (and the few times I tried are marked in my mind as the times I was harassed by creepy older men). And the less I am even willing to pretend or fake it, the more rejected I feel on a day to day basis. Usually by men. Sure they love being friends, but dating? HAH!

So reading the sentence “discovers what the world really thinks of her.”? Yeah. I am finding out. And yanno what? It’s pretty much soul destroying. And no pep talks about how someone will appreciate me for me. I fucking doubt it. And in the mean time? Constant fucking rejection.

So what do you do? My filter is dead and gone. I have no more fucking patience for bullshit and games. I am just NOT fucking interested. I am supposed to hate my fat body because it doesn’t enable me to play feminine to the exacting standard of the patriarchy and yet my fat body is mine and its strong and it gets shit done.

But still, I fucking ask, WHAT NOW? Do I, because I don’t play my role, just get used to the idea of being alone and never fulfilling a want of my heart because the system we live in dictates that? Fuck.

And another thing? Sexpozzies? Fuck off. How stupid is this. You think reclaiming sexy empowers you? Sexy is a tool of the patriarchy. Thats like a slave claiming empowerment over taking back slavery while still being a fucking slave.

*Throws hands up in utter frustrations and walks off*


Posted by on October 23, 2011 in The Patriarchy